Fathers Are Special…and so is their assignment…

Fathers are special…and so is their assignment…

Only a father or father-figure…can be a father or father-figure…no-one else can fill that role…

Sometimes a mother may have to fill in and try to do some of the fatherly duties…but if we’re honest…it’s not the same…it can’t be…because it wasn’t designed to be…

We need fathers to be what God created them to be…without that in a child’s life…their circle is incomplete

We, naturally, celebrate the one who carried the seed moreso than the one who watered it, it seems

But it takes both, mother and father, to nurture and cultivate the blessing of a child so that he or she can bloom and flourish into the version of themselves that God created them to be

I still have the heart of a daddy’s girl, always and forever will…my daddy transitioned to the otherside of glory when I was 18 and let’s just say that was several decades ago…but I still honor him

I’ve been reflecting all morning on my experience with my daddy. I’ve never felt my daddy kind of love from anyone on this earth…as it should be…it’s a high bar

I can’t even explain how loved I felt and how much I still feel his love, his light and his joy…it continues to fill my heart

A child is always learning from his or her father…some things are caught…and others are taught

My earthly father introduced me to my Heavenly Father…

He didn’t send me to church…he took me…Sunday School…Bible Study…5th Sunday Union…etc

He didn’t tell me to pray…he was my example of how to…he got on his knees every night with me and my mom and prayed over us, our family members and others by name

He didn’t just tell me to read the Bible… he instructed me how…’pray first and ask God to show you what he wants you to see’, he would say

He didn’t just protect me…but he taught me how to protect myself…that’s a story for another day :)

He told me that I could be anything I wanted to be…as long as I put God first

He loved me so much that when he was about to transition from this side of Glory to the other…He sent someone to get me from the waiting room…even in the midst of transition…he was thinking about me…he held my hand tight, we looked into each other’s eyes as he took his last 3 breaths…

To be honest…a part of me left with my daddy that day…the pain of losing him ran so deep that I thought I would never recover…it took years for me to allow the Father in Heaven that he introduced me to…to heal the brokenness associated with losing him

I know without a doubt that I was an incredibly blessed child to have such an amazingly loving father who loved me with everything he had and who lived his life from a place of love

And because I only had my father for 18 years…it’s proof that it’s not about how much time you have with your child…it’s about the quality of it…what you do with it

It’s not about what you leave behind for them…which is helpful…

But what’s most important…is what you leave in them…that’s what helps determine how they move…what they do or don’t do…how they love themselves and others…how they live

To all the fathers out there…I celebrate you all…

From those who are as close to being a perfect father as humanly possible… to those who are struggling to figure it all out…

I celebrate you All and wish you a Very Special Father’s Day!!

And to anyone who has a father or father-figure of any sort in their lives…

Please remember that as strong as some present…they hurt too…

They also may have some broken pieces in places that they may not even realize…

And so it shows up in how they express themselves and even how they love

Some will always remind you how special you are and how much they love you…verbally

Some may not always express their love in words…but they do so in deeds…kind and thoughtful jestures

Some fathers express their love through giving their children gifts…from childhood to adulthood…they work hard so they can do so

Time can also be an expression of a father’s love…doing something they enjoy with their children…or simply talking with…and listening to them

And last but not least…and certainly my favorite…hugs and kisses…are also ways that a father expresses his love for his child

I’ve been blessed to have known and to know so many amazing fathers…and I want you to know that if you ever feel that you’re not all the way appreciated…just know that you know that you know…you really are…

We see you and appreciate you…not just for what you do for your own children…but even those that do not carry your last name

To the fathers who don’t have an earthly father as an example of what to do…you have a Heavenly Father who can teach you through the instructions in His Word and His Holy Spirit…how to be the best version of you…so you can be the best father for the assignment and gift He’s given you

And to all the fathers out there…who know you’re broken…and often through no fault of your own…but maybe you’re too stubborn or too proud or even fear asking for help…please don’t do that to yourself or your child/children/grandchildren…your strength is in your honesty about what you need to heal and having the courage and determination to make it happen…so that you can be the version of you that God intended…that’s the version that’s needed to help your sons and daughters heal and be made whole so that they can fulfill the purpose that they were created for

For the fathers who are feeling the loss of a child today…or those feeling the loss of a father…you’re not forgotten. I pray that God’s peace and love blankets you with comfort. These are losses we never get over…but in time…learn to live with…by the grace of God

Please don’t underestimate how much we need each and every one of you, fathers…now more than ever…no matter what’s going on outside of the home…you’re the compass in your home that helps your child/children know which direction their facing…and which direction they need to go.

Children don’t need their fathers to be perfect…there’s no such thing…at the end of the day…they just need to know that you love them…unconditionally…and that they can come to you…no matter what…even when they’re in trouble or being troublesome :) …real love is powerful…it does as the Bible says…conquers all…

Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers, daddy’s, pop-pops, grandpas, god-dads, etc!! I pray that you enjoy your day celebrating and being celebrated!!! We Celebrate You And May God Bless You…is my prayer!!!